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JULY 15th ISSUE Issue Number 24
Divorce Recovery 101 Newsletter

Divorce Recovery Help 24/7, WHAT WORKS
Harlan Jacobsen

One of our readers wrote and suggested that it would be more personal and helpful if I ran my picture with the newsletter. We can do that with some difficulty and more work, (time) but we had given some thought about doing an html format to improve the newsletters previously, so we thought it worthwhile now to try this format at least this once, (not necessarily include the picture). Just to be sure we sent the usual text version first. We await your comments,..... E-Mail us.


This newsletter, the Divorce Recovery 101 site, our free courses and your author can be compared to Home Depot, your home improvement center.

When your home gets damaged in a bad storm you go to Home Depot to see what's available, and what tips and instructions and help you can get to fix it and put it back together.

When your life gets damaged by a relationship storm, you stop by our sites to see what's available, what tips and instructions and help you can get to fix and put your life back together.

When you go to Home Depot you will discover that with a little extra effort, this disaster is an opportunity to not only fix what's damaged, you can completely rebuild and remodel to make it like you always wanted.

When you go to our web sites you will discover that with a little extra effort, this disaster in your life is an opportunity to not only fix where your life was damaged, you can take charge, learn how to completely rebuild and remodel to make your life like you always wanted.

Now Home Depot may not have anyone with a degree in house rebuilding, or remodeling, but every store has people with lots of experience and know how that can help you find what you need to know how to do and what needs to be done.

They will also explain what your options are, and tell you that where you go with all this, is of course your own decision.

Your author does not have a degree in building a new life, but does have a lot of experience and tested know how, and we do have one staff member, editor Janet Jacobsen, (daughter) even working on completing her doctorate at ASU.

Home Depot and our web sites both use the same motto:

You can do it......

............We can help.

You can stop by Home Depot, and/or you can stop by our sites and pick up the tools and material you need to rebuild and even remodel, to the best of your life..... or.... you can do nothing.

Where you go from here and what happens now and in your future is "entirely" now up to you.

The Most Miserable Day Of Your Life

All of us going through a divorce suffer and go through some pain in the process.

True, some more than others, which we will get into at another time.

We can just visualize your quota of pain you have to go thru and experience and tell you that you can ration it out to make it more tolerable, and take a "little pain" for a very long time or you can really get into some devastating almost unbearable pain for a short time and get it over with.

If you go to your Doctor and tell him this divorce pain, is just too much "give me something" to make it bearable.

He will, and certainly the pain will be less but it will likely hang around for a very long time.

If however you decide you are tough and can handle pain, and want to get it over with and get on with life.....then consider deliberately planning and setting up,

"The Most Miserable Day of Your Life.,"

  • Send the kids to grandmas,
  • Take the day off.
  • Take the phone off the hook.
  • Stock up on Kleenex
  • Dig out all your wedding pictures
  • Lay out all the love letters you got.
  • Start early, make it a full day.
  • Get out the vacation and travel photos you enjoyed together.
  • All the photos of you both together with the new babies.
  • The holiday and family pictures.

Spend the whole day pouring over these, remembering, crying, pound the table, really get into being miserable. (do not call or talk to anyone, do not answer the door.)

Most that I have interviewed that have gone through "The Most Miserable Day Of Your Life," tell me that about 3 or 4 in the afternoon they became bored and sick and tired of the whole thing and "decide" I just don't want to do this anymore.
They also told me it was the turning point in "letting go" of "what was' and "what might have been" and getting on with "going to be".

You could do this over the usual two years, mucking around with it, or you can do it in this one tough day.



"Forgiveness does not mean condoning what has been done.
Forgiving means abandoning your right to pay back the perpetrator in his own coin,...but......
..... it is a loss.....

....... that liberates the victim."

Desmond Tutu, Anglican archbishop of Johannesburg, and Nobel laureate.
Janet ran the above quote in the Country Singles and Az Single Scene newsletters she edits, (To subscribe click here) and I thought it was such a good quote, that we should have by now, an article on the subject of "forgiveness".
However, when you think about it, the whole story and the lesson are all in the quote.
  • Read that quote again.

Who needs another article?

Divorce Humor with a Message

An ex-spouse is like an inflamed appendix....they cause a lot of pain and suffering, but after it's removed........
.... you find out you actually didn't really need it anyway.


Bumper Stickers....

  1. Hang in there...Even Moses was once a basket case.

  2. I am out of estrogen and I have a gun

  3. Our Jesus is better than your Jesus







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